"I have no patience with the stupidity of the average teacher of grammar who wastes precious years in hammering rules into children's heads. For it is not by learning rules that we acquire the power of speaking a language, but by daily intercourse with those accustomed to express themselves with exactness and refinement, and by the copious reading of the best authors."
I have seen this principle at work in the lives of some of our greatest authors!
But it doesn't apply just to grammar. We acquire the 'power' of living life 'by daily intercourse with those accustomed to [living life] with exactness and refinement, and by the copious reading of the best [lives]"...not by pounding rules and doctrines of right living into our heads.
Art credit: The Storyteller by Jacques-Clement Wagraz (artrenewal.org)